- Updated on August 3, 2019
By Dr. Artour Rakhimov, Alternative Health Educator and Author
In the video below, Dr. Artour Rakhimov asks Lynn Himmelmann, NDT Master Trainer, about emotional abuse. How is it stored in the body and by what mechanism? How emotional and verbal abuse affects our future relationships? What are long term effects of abusive relationships?
Lynn explains how people suffering emotional abuse in a relationship (or marriage or parents/caretakers), and they often don’t leave the situation right away or look to recreate a past situation in their lives that reinforces their negative beliefs about themselves and their self-worth.
Lynn says the she herself suffered years of emotional abuse and knows first-hand how debilitating, traumatizing and paralysing it is and how it feels like. It is pure freedom and liberation to find that empowered place inside yourself to leave a bad situation with verbal or emotional abuse.
A person who had not suffered abuse would be far more likely to see the situation as abusive and would perceive the situation in a more clear-headed way, removing themselves from the situation. If someone is standing in front of you pointing a gun at you the logical thing to do would be to step out of the line of fire.
However, a person who has suffered from verbal or emotional trauma in the past will often stay in an abusive situation be it marriage relationships or due to parents/caretakers. The victims will often blame themselves for not doing or saying the right thing and the abuser will keep them down. (These are some of the long-term effects of emotional abuse.) This can be a catch-22 situation that can last for years. The lower the person is, the harder it is to leave the situation.
She emphasizes that the New Decision Therapy is a very loving process. It helps you find a way to leave difficult situations without stepping out of it and carrying lots of anger with you. You can leave the situation with your heart open rather than closed.